Forget about just focusing on sun signs—we’re diving deeper into the astrology to understand the romantic compatibility. Ever wonder if your stars align with your crush’s? Good news: your birth chart is basically an astro cheat sheet for love, offering way more insight than just your zodiac sign.
What Drives Love and Desire? The Planets Hold the Answers
Want to dig into your potential partner’s birth chart? You can use a natal chart calculator to see the planetary placements that shape their romantic side. Here’s the lowdown on the heavy hitters:
Moon Sign 🌙: This is the emotional heart of their chart. It’s all about their inner world—what makes them feel secure, their deepest values, and how they give and receive care. Checking out their moon sign is like peering into their soul.
Venus Sign 💖: The planet of love and attraction, Venus reveals how they show affection, what they value in relationships, and how they experience pleasure. Basically, it’s your cheat code for figuring out their love language.
Mars Sign 🔥: Mars brings the heat—it rules action, drive, and sexual energy. Their Mars sign gives you a glimpse into their passions, how they chase what they desire, and how they bring energy into relationships.
The Planets of Abundance and Boundaries
But chemistry only gets you so far, and for long-term compatibility you need to dig a little deeper:
Ascendant: The face they show to the world — the first impression, how they approach life. Their climbing sign is what their public face can help us understand more about.
Jupiter: the sign of the master/guru and the lucky planet This placement will tell you how they attract luck and how your luck may also benefit from their life. Are they your gober?
Saturn Sign – Saturn shows how we relate to boundaries and commitment, so this also speaks to their long-term relationship needs and any lessons they have to learn. It's the hold of the cosmos over relationships.
Connections in Your Birth Charts
So, you’ve mapped out your potential partner’s key planetary placements—what’s next? Start by checking the degrees of separation between your planets and theirs. If the difference is 10 degrees or less, that’s a strong connection—kind of like the planets are vibing on the same wavelength. The closer the degree, the more powerful the impact.
Think of it as a conversation between your natal charts. How do your planets “communicate” to each other? It’s not just about matching signals. It’s about the dynamic interaction between your major planets (like your Sun, Moon, Rising, Mercury, Venus, and Mars) and their heavy hitters, like Jupiter and Saturn.
This one shows us how your energies mix, complement or even challenge each other. There are clues you can see in the planetary connections that indicate an easy relationship:
- Conjunction (2 signs): Strong resonance with a kindred sense of purpose. For instance, a Pluto-Jupiter conjunction in Libra (the partnership sign) might mean growth in a relationship. In the bedroom, a dreamy, rose-colored connection can be made by a Neptune-Mars conjunction in Sagittarius.
- Trine: 4 Signs apart, sign elements the same (fire, earth, air or water) easily flowing and a natural understanding. Consider it as sharing the same cosmic dialect.
Signs refresher:
Fire Signs: Aries, Leo, Sagittarius
Earth Signs: Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn
Air Signs: Gemini, Libra, Aquarius
Water Signs: Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces
- Sextile: A two-sign separation favors friendly connection. It's less of an instant kind of spark and more of an open invitation to connect. Loot closer to:
Aries: Gemini, Aquarius
Taurus: Cancer, Pisces
Gemini: Aries, Leo
Cancer: Taurus, Virgo
Leo: Gemini, Libra
Virgo: Cancer, Scorpio
Libra: Leo, Sagittarius
Scorpio: Virgo, Capricorn
Sagittarius: Libra, Aquarius
Capricorn: Scorpio, Pisces
Aquarius: Aries, Sagittarius
Pisces: Taurus, Capricorn
Soulmate Signals: Planetary Pairings to Look For
Sun Conjunct Moon Synastry: A cold or criminal Sun person finds warmth with an emotional Moon person, and the intuitive sense between them runs deep.
Sun Trine or Sextile Sun: An instant sparks with a sun-sun trine, while two sextiles create an easy bond with their mutual but more subtle harmony. It indicates a comfort level and life force shared.
Conjunction of the Moon or Venus to the Ascendant
If you look closely at the synastry (how two charts interact) between two people, often one person’s Moon (emotional core) or Venus (attraction and love) playing with the other Ascendant (how they present to the world), it is something akin to a bridal gown. That adds a level of familiarity within beauty, comfort or sentiment.
For the Moon/Venus Person: The person with the Ascendant embodies characteristics that are almost meant to be; they resonate naturally with the rising partner's emotional or aesthetic ideals.
The Ascendant Person: feels incredibly seen and cherished from the work of the Moon or Venus partner, which fuels affection and attraction.
The relationship often flows very easily, as if both partners are immediately “on the same page.”
Synastry: Venus Conjunct, Trine or Sextile Mars
Nothing is more electric than Venus meeting up with Mars (passion and drive). This combo maintains a strong equilibrium of sex appeal and passion, which ensures that the emotional connection is driving the chemistry.
Straight with: This is straight flames And the way one partner displays affection is a reflection of the sexual energy of their other half, creating an irresistible attraction.
Trine: It is a natural flow where both partners intuitively know what the other wants, how to love them and what their love language is.
A sextile starts off slower, but becomes a passionate friendship blend. Consider it a fairy tale that goes from the first date to love of your life.
